How any one can have happy married life?

[sunilkumar]

hi,

How any one can have happy married life? .... need opinion of all viewer ,,,, please reply ...your participation will be appriciated

Always friiend sunilkumar

[India1989]

One can have a happy married life by understanding your partner. Helping him or her all the time he or she needs it. Try not to go into a fight. Solve conflicts peacefully. THink of your partner's point of view. Give her gifts. Take her out. Make her happy. Give what she wants.

I think that is enough to make your partner happy and give her more time.

[megrisoft]

India1989, I am agree with you. Other members, why all are you sitting behind? Come forward and give your views.

[India1989]

Everybody come online, give your views. No harm in sharing your views. We all want you here. Discuss things, know each other's opinion and have fun. COme and share your views with us.

[megrisoft]

Counseling is essential for happy Married life. Meaning of happy married life is not only to give gifts to each other, not only to have outings, not only to have a good understanding, or not only to help in each other's work. They all when combined make a 'Happy Married Life'. There should be a feeling of respect for each other. Always live happy even on sad moments.

[India1989]

Yeah understandings are the most important thing for married life. First understand and then help. Also helping and supporting one in one's need is also good. Loving each other is also good. THen most of all respect each other. Respecting is really needed for happy married life.

[Priyanka]

I believe first of all person should leave behind their ego, to maintain any healthy relationship, Relationship may be of husband & wife or any other relation, Secondly the trust & respect for each other is most important thing between husband & wife.

I hope all will agree with me that there will always be clash between husband and wife on any matter, its the ego that can may the things worst.

Beside this for happy married life of couple there must be understanding, love between them & there should not be communication gap.

Fight is an integral part of happy married life .. he he he :D

Don't be over possesive for your partner allow them to live their life independently. Remember one thing independence bring more responsibility & liberty on individual to work in team.

[sunilkumar]

I will advice People to read booK "Mans are from Mars and women are from Venus", the authour of this book is John Gray (book is considered to be best seller) by this they will get clear idea about relationship between husband & wife and how to make your married life happy.

Megrisoft <== you said live happy even we are sad

To be very honest its difficult to be happy when we are sad & in relationship with your spouse dont try to show anything wrong, if you are happy show your are happy and if you are sad show you are sad, be very frank and honest.

I do agree with priyanka on this matter.

From:- Sunilkumar

[megrisoft]

I didn't mean sad moments with misunderstanding or any anger between couples. When there is a family, lots of happenings can be there. Like quarrel with third person, any tension of outside matters, financial tension, and many more. If wife and husband have full understanding and love for each other, then they can fight with any tension even in the sad moments. Sunilkumar, actually you took my views in a wrong way.

[sunilkumar]

Thanks for your clarification megrisoft ... :)

[megrisoft]

Thanks for understanding me Sunilkumar.....:)

[arti]

Marriage is like an exam,one can only pass it by understanding each others feelings.It is said that marriages are made in heaven.Some people believes in arranged marriage some don't.But whether it is arranged or love marriage if mutual understanding is not there it can't be a successful marriage.
So people who are going to tie knots be prepare for the most difficult and important exam of life.

[sunilkumar]

Arti you sounds some what Philosophical .... that marriage is exam .. well our life in itself is an exam and married life is one subject of it... :D

I dont believe marriage is most difficult exam... If you can stay Happily with your best friend then you can make your life parter your best friend that's it..... dont try to be boss of your soul mate just be best frank friend ...;) ....

[Priyanka]

By Marring me a boy can have happy maried life :p he he :D .... boys I hope you are on run ..... but i m far ahead

[Niku]

hi , sunilkumar

no body had asked this question to you "What do you mean by "HAPPY Married Life"

i will appreciate if you can elaborate what exactly you are looking for :)

[sunilkumar]

Niku i m sure i m not looking for Male .. he he :D .... this thread was started by me .... so expecting answer from other :p ... still what i belive i had said on this issue..u can go through the first and second link of same thread ..

[Niku]

;) it is clear from your ID that you are a male looking for female. I have no doubt in that.

What I feel ...you failed to understand my reply.

You are asking for How one can have Happy married life.. Right?

But you have not specified What do you mean by Happy Married life.

pls. elaborate if you understand my concern .. this time. :p

[India1989]

I think that happy married life means that they understand each other and don't fight unnecesarily and stuffs.

[Niku]

That is your view "India1989" i was asking view's from Starter of this thread.

Actually what i think he just want to create his image among the girls arround; exactly he is not having any idea what actually he is looking for.

[sunilkumar]

I think nikku you know the meaning of "happy",..... :D Its upto you to decide what is happiness ? here people are replying on how to have happy married life ... so reply of all the people will be consider and we will come to one conclusion.... I know happiness in itself is a wider concept ... the things which can make me happy its not necessary that can make u happy....

As per my image in eyes of girls ......I want to say that ==> buddy this is not the only forum ...:D, i know i m far better than many male, and when i see myself in mirror i feel i m good and morally correct... :D .... As per your perception, i am trying to create my image among girls.....
Note:-I had my own unique image which i dont want to change or to create in eyes of anyone... & I m no more kid like u ...nikku

[venky]

I read a book called Road Less Travelled by M. Scott Peck. I definitely recommend this book for you all if you didnt read already.
It has sections about love, parenting, understanding etc that will be essential to married life as well.

[PlayBoy]

By reading any book cannot make anyonce married life happy ... what is written in book is view of one individual... You may like it or you may not like .... and every writer belong to different culture and community so he/she have his own view as per the way they are grown up by their individual society, culture and community.... their views written in books may be helpfull to someone but some time it may not help...
Implementation in our practical life of things which are written in book is necessary to make happy married life & we dont have to implement that thing blindly ... no author of book is master... we even don't know how much analysis they have done on any issue related to marriage life ...

[venky]

Playboy, I just suggested a book for reading :) I didnt request people to follow the book letter for letter or sentence for sentence.

Yes, everybook written by somebody else is dependent on them and hence can be seen as their opinion. Isnt that obvious?

They say good books are like friends. You still take whatever you can and implement if you feel its right. You still will have to do your own judgements, thinking etc. in any implementation. You may think something entirely on your own and implement it as well.

The book talks about married couple respecting differences between each other, giving others space, realising that the other person is a unique invidual, willing to go that extra mile for loved ones, differences in the way couples think, parental love, tough love, love vs responsibility, love vs commitment so on and so forth.

[sunilkumar]

seeing other post of Niku i can say , Niku is not a kid ....But that never means i am trying to create image in eyes of gal through this Forum :D

I have A unique image & i dont want to change it.

[SunnyWang]

understand the partner! happly when he or she happly , make he or she happy when he or she sad !!

[alpha]

Love your partner unconditionally and you will have a happy married life, and make sure you find a compatible women,a matching one for you.Give her herown space in life and respect her.
n be totally happy with what you have. Spent quality time with your partner and talk out your heart. and share all worldly pleasures and pains you have got :rolleyes: and fights are common and bound to happen,dont be let down by them.

[vedu]

Ya i appriciate u alpha
this is very neccessary to understand each other, and also keep their feelings safty.

One more thing is that you should give ur partener some new entertainments.
since one of u r responsible for income, so another one should have a good managing power. it is also neccessary.

bcoz Shadi is not just romance. it include ur commerce too.

[josh]

its impossible 2 have a happy married life until u r married 2 a gal whom u r in luv wid :cool:

[sweet_naz]

thats not entirely true, my sister had an arranged marriage n her n her husband are very happy and love each other a lot

[vedu]

I dont talk abut arranged or love marrige

i only say the sexual relation before marrige is not well for a girl for social security

[josh]

sorry i forgot to mention 1 thing

boys n gals should have had sex before they marry as it happens in western countries :cool:

[vedu]

Dear josh

dont forgate about our society rules in India.
It may be possible that u r from a big city.
but for small towns and villeges
all people knows each other very well

so they watch and know each others activities.

In this case if a marrige proposal of a boy/girl is cancelled
then it will very problamistic for then(especially for girl) to refind her/his partner.

and as we know life parterns are decided by parents (In India)

so sexual relation before marrige create problem
according to this situation

[josh]

but dey can enjoy it(sex) , girls enjoy it more dan boys do

[vedu]

Only enjoyment is not the life dear...

we have to follow some rules for safty.
some restriction to satisfy others.
and some adjustment for happy life in future

[Seekrit]

In my opinion

one who is happy will not be married n
the one who is married will never be happy

just a mixed phase of emotions

[alpha]

if the male and female in a relationship are sure that they have met their lifepartners..no probs in havin sex...its jst expressin love n feelin love :rolleyes: Sex will only strengten a relationship which is already based on trust.

[Rajini]

Hi Sunil
I have gone through all your replies and I am impressed by the depth of knowledge and understanding you have about marriage issues though you are not married.
But its really appreciable job you are doing guiding people wiht their queries and I am no different than them.
Nowadays I am going through lots dilemma regarding my marriage.
here is a brief idea of my problem:
Actually I am engaged, its an arranged , this proposal was found through matrimonial website.
every thing seemed to work fine to finally we got engaged.
its almost 45 days from now.
I am student abroad and he work sin india.
my problem is when i was in india he use to call me and talk to me , we also met once.
but after i came here i did called him and his family , everything was nice.
but somewhere i felt he is gettig away from me and the reason which made me feel this is that he never ever called me after i came here neither he tries to contact me through internet no mails no chat.
he is opposite to me in nature though he is quite reserved person.
but i think however reserved person he is , he should atleast care to mail me to find out how i am doing . i mean i feel that he is least bothered of me.
then i got many negative thoughts like if he is really interested in me or he is just doing it for the sake of family.
But I am very scared because i think before marriage i should know the person very well. But i am not getting chance. due ot lack of communication.
I did treid to find out the reasonfrom him, whenever i called him and asked him about the reason , he said he is very busy wit his work load , preparetion of certain exams simulatneously and stuffm that he just cant htink about me and cant communicate me.
he said he thinks about one thing at a time.
but he does meet his freinds evevry weekend. I just wonder dont he ever for a moment think about me, afterall i am his fiancee , i am ready to adjust compromise and adjust with him. But it is possibel only when i completely undertsand him and how can i undertsand him without talking ot him.
Our marriage is almost nearby 4-5 motnhs due.
But all i am scared is he really true to me and will he keep me happy after marriage. all its just a marriage business he is doing for the sake of doing it.
Please Sunil and other friends if you all can suggest me soemhting genuine thne pls do it.
Because every time i thinkg of it , and it make sme feel very bad and insecure coz its question of whole life and not few days.
I did tried my best to get answer form him direcltly but all i got the answerf rom him is hav etrust in me, i am really happy with this relation and that he is very bsuy with upgrading his career.
will wait for ur replies friends.
Rajini.
but

[sunilkumar]

See when boy is engaged with any gal for marriage or marry any gal he becomes some what casual about that girl coz he thinks, now she is booked for him for whole life ..:D

As gal is booked for him he will make less call and will not spend more money in calling her & gal will think he is not despo guy for her. Some time boy are career oriented like me who can forget family friend and every one for their ambition, but when they full fill there ambition they need some one to share their win at that time they expect their love, wife family member with them….

Rajini One more thing I want to say, specially for your case I don’t know what profession u are in but if you and your fiancé are in same profession then he is trying to be as good as you… this is very critical … here ego can come…

You said he should care to mail me.. Well if he is not messaging u through phone or calling you then he should defiantly mail you… see guys those who are less romantic get hurt easily. I can say in most of cases if guy is in love or engaged he will go mad for her fiancée he will call gal in every 1 hour… but some time male think that if he will call gal then gal family will think that family of boys are more interested in marriage,,,, but actually both the party are in need… its also a matter of ego.

Rajini this may also possible that your fiancé is to busy with his study and he need some more time for studies but for love … 1 full day is also less ….

I think your fiancé is in doubt that he did right thing by doing engagement with you or not...hope this may be wrong... But it will be better if you ask him that do he love u or its just compromise he is trying to do with you. Tell him I am not able to find you romantic & possessive for me. Tell him that I don’t know how I will fight with you.
Rajini try to know what he expects from you. The day you will find what he expecting from you, you can understand that is he suitable for you or not, you are ready to adjust & compromise with him. But it is possible only when you completely understand him and you can understand him by talking to him & knowing his expectation… so better ask him those entire things what I had said…

See some boys do have gal friend in past they become very casual in matter of love, don’t have that much intensity for it.

There are some other things to consider in your case
[1] Your family background
[2] Profession of your fiancé and yours
[3] Probably he may be miser don’t want to waste money by calling you as you are already booked for him…. etc. The information that you had given is very less so difficult to come on any solid conclusion.

Rajini don’t expect him lover after marriage … your fiancé is an Indian Male ….. Every one can’t be like me;.. just kidding.....

Any ways I do have eyes of god …..So i know love and arrange marriage both are based on calculation now a days & every one need best.

Money is for me I am not for money...
Its me your friend Sunilkumar

[monica]

To make a marriage successfull.



Firstly, u should forget ur right to speak atleast for a year. Don't criticise ur partner or his members.

Never discuss ur issues in front of other members.

U must do one thing. Only listen to others and try to understand them.

If u want to change ur partner then don't just expect him to change in a day.

The best way to get your say is it to be cool even at times u are not at fault.

These are certain good things to be kept in mind............

[chandrakantaverma]

marride life is very complecated life becouse we can solved
any problom but marride life problome never solved.

[aamrira]

dear the first step you have taken that you are giving proper time to this thought,and of cause the very simple and you know that make a healthy and loyal with full of faith relation with your wife.you will be happy. best wishes

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[monica]

I think there are lots of things to cope with when a girl goes to her inlaw's house for the first day. There are lots of things that have to be kept in mind. Give due respect to your elders. Give a proper hearing to your partner's views. He can guide you to understand the views of family members in a more precise manner.

After the marriage, things change a lot for a boy and girl. They need some mutual adjustment and understanding.

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[munish]

O Try not to go into a fight. Solve conflicts peacefully. THink of your partner's point of view. Give her gifts. Take her out. Make her happy. Give what she wants.

I think that is enough to make your partner happy and give her more time.

I think compassion for each other comes when there is love and respect for each other.If it is not there it is better to seperate.

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[preetibedi18]

its depend on individual to individual..whether he/she wants to enjoy there married life or not..everybody have there grey areas..so try to forget all those things..which make u unhappy..and remember those things which make u happy with your lifepartner...

[preetibedi18]

for a healdhy marriage u should have understanding and co-operative..lifepartner

[romilshah]

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[sunilkumar]

One Important thing to have happy married life is not to have unnecessary Involment of parents in couple life, most of time parents giving wrong advise to their kid those who are married.... so understanding family members other than married couple are also important...
After marriage girl and boy must have their own personal life without involment of N e one