Women Achievers are mostly without brothers

[hina]

hello everyone,
quite recently, i came across a issue,that "majority of women personalities in india are children from family without sons".so what is the reason behind this very unusual sentence.is it that a family with sons welcome the talents of a son and encourge it, and make a way to achieve their goal..what about a female sibling in those family?how far they have been given priorty?is their talents are also encourged and given a chance to prove it?and whether a family with sons paved a way for their daughters to improve their talent and achieve thier goals??

[India1989]

Common man what are you talking about. You guys have totaly wrong idea about India. In India women is given so much priority, same as boys. Rani Mukherjee, the no.1 actress in India has a brother. But she is a major start. This is one example. They are given so much importance. same as the boys. In many families I have seen that the sisters given importance while the brothers are not.

But for sure the elder sisters or brothers are given more importance. Women achieve a lot of success in life in India. Some of the really good doctors and engineers are women who had brothers. They do taste success and are treated equally as guys.

[megrisoft]

People of 21st century are very broad minded. The attitide and thinking of parents and society is totally changed than earlier. In some rural or backward areas, the people gives the importance to boy child than girls. The thinking about girls has changed a lot and lot. Girls are in the no. 1 position in many fields. They even get more preference than brothers. These can be seen in every sphere of field.

[sunilkumar]

Sorry to reply on this form coz this is female section of forum and i m not female, just want to tell few fact of india.
FACT==>Majoritiy of people dont live in matropolitian cities.

Most of female live in rural area and there more importance is still given to male child.

you must be thinking why they are given more importance?

[1] Parent have to give dowry in marriage of their daughter.
[2] In north of india family chain is carried from father side.
(i.e. before marriage daughter will have surname of father and after marriage she will have surname of husband)
[3] Male required less security campare to female.
[4] Women are more respected but at the same time they should be clean with her character and they have to do some sacrifice for family.
[5] Most of Male are physically more strong, so they can provide security to their family from intruder coz in rural area police station is very far.
[6] Its always difficult to find good groom for daughter, coz father are generally more possesive regarding there daughter and after marriage girl has to live with his husband.
[7] Campare to male, female are less in few state of india (e.g. Punjab, gujarat ect)
[8] Character of male has fallen.
[9] Now a days Crime against women had also increased.

From Friendly Sunilkumar

[megrisoft]

The beauty of a woman
Is not in the clothes she wears,
The figure that she carries,
Or the way she combs her hair.

The beauty of a woman
must be seen from in her eyes,
Because that is the doorway to her heart,
the place where love resides.

The beauty of a woman
is not in a facial mole,
But true beauty in a woman
Is reflected in her soul.

It is the caring that she lovingly gives,
The passion that she shows,
And the beauty of a woman
With passing years-only grows!

You don't stop laughing because you grow old;
you grow old because you stop laughing

[Priyanka]

Sunilkumar agian you are correct, and i agree with you.

Megrisoft <== I think your above post out was out of context.

[India1989]

In rural areas it is different and in urban areas it is even more different. So megri talked about urban areas and not rural. I think you should try to analyze the whole situation.

[megrisoft]

Thanksssss. These people always analyse the one aspect of the situation but not the other. If you are in discussion, first analyse both ends and then speak. Try to understand the views of the person.

[megrisoft]

Yaa, it is right to say that condition of women has improved a lot after independence. She is coming forward in every field. India has the world’s largest number of professionally qualified women. But still her condition is decreasing day by day. Women is not safe in any place. She cannot go out in the night alone. This is good to have women outside and worked, but women work roughly twice as many as many hours as men. After her office, she has to do household work as well. There has been an alarming rise in the rapes, assualts and dowry related murders. The insecurity outside the household, or even inside unsafe from the relatives, is today the greatest obstacle in the path of women. Today also, many women have no right to decide with who they will marry.
If on one end, she is gaining, on the other end she is losing.
Why this is so? :confused:

[India1989]

Well even in Detroit and TOronto it might be unsafe for women to walk alone. Anywhere it can be unsafe for women. No place in world is safe.

[hina]

the concept about here is not only about the actress but on the whole..consider:if a family has two good,intelligent kids(ofcourse a boy and a girl).and if they give perference for futher studies,a particpation in national level sports and quizes(if both are good in same fields)and a oppurnity to go abroad..who will be given first preference even if the girl is better than the boy?

[sunilkumar]

Middle class family always give opportunity for there daughter and son both, but when it comes to send them abroad for further studies in western country most of Indian father don’t like to send their daughter there, Father are generally more possessive for there daughter. Most of time father want to see there daughter settle first by doing marriage. And frankly speaking most of middle class people in India don’t have much money to send there son or daughter abroad for further studies. & I believe it is useless to go out of India for further studies, If people think that they are competitive then they should try to get admission here in good institute in India,

Note:-In India competition is more, Indian Studies & exams are tough.
I know most of people go there in UK, Australia etc. for studies there they don’t studies they work and earn Pound and Dollars.

Boys from rich, higher middle class family goes there to have fun and at last they say Indian girls those who are in India are good and they want to marry them only.. ha ha :D .. So why this hypocrisy?

As far sports and quizzes gal get support from there parent in middle class family living in Urban area, but to be very honest to become a sports person in India is not a good idea coz other than cricket and tennis no other sports have money, here in India lot of competition in every thing and corruption is to much even in sports, so most of good family now wants there son and daughter to be highly educated, having professional degree, like Doctor, Engineers, Lawyers, etc. And Personally I will like to make my daughter IAS, Doctor, Computer expert, Lawyer, Teacher etc. [I will not prefer my daughter to be Actress or Model. Rest depends on her caliber and interest. But from childhood I will teach her what is important for her for nation and what can make me proud because of you (i.e my daughter)… By the way I am Unmarried uptill now... He he :D

Note:- Film Industry is run by money of underworld. Most of People are character less in film industry. Only few people are good in Film Industry (I mean to say Exception are always there), You can have example of Preety Jain what happens with him … I Don’t want my daughter at her place. Most of the Miss Univers and Miss World from India had joined film industry just for money, Susmita sen I believe she can be best person to do management in any MNC, Professor, Writer, she can be good News Reader and Journalist she is really an amazing personality. Ashwariya rai is Post graduate in management … working in flim industry …..now come on be honest with yourself all films are not creative… most of male like to see women undressed very few people think of acting, And if I am wrong then do u think that things which is done in bad room should be shown on screen. Every body know sex is part of life , Every one know how to do sex nobody has to teach this… but when such things is been asked to film director, producer, actor , actress they will say it was the demand of character in the film…. What a shit... Many girls on TV show says that they are able to see such movie in front of father & family but I don’t agree with them on TV show they can say any thing but reality is something else, Most of Indian women reside in Rural Area not in a Metropolitan city...

Note: - Business of Pornography and sex earn more money than any thing… :D .

Teen Girls and Boys move towards film industry to make their careers and most of them are nowhere, Actress & Actor are like vegetables in film industry. In Name of Cast Couching full exploitation is done male model have to do sex with women of their mother's age, or have to involve in homosexual relation and teen gal have to do sex with man having age of there father against there wish …

I will not say that there is no exploitation in other field but film industry is really a shit compare to other organization.

And the way Actress wear cloth in film, no girls wear such type of cloth on road.

Truth is at your Door .... If you want to accept you can or you can go for glamour world which is totally empty from inside.

It me always with bang
Sunilkumar

[India1989]

Girls do get importance. Even if in a middle class family if the girl is smarter then the boy then the Girl for sure gets more importance. One again it varies from state to state. If both boy and girl are same smart then both get the same amount of importance. It is not based on boy and girl mainly. It is more based on the eldest children and younger children. THe eldest ones get more importance, no matter whatever sex the person is.

[Priyanka]

I belong to metrocities of india, I want to say there are few ristriction for gal compare to boy, gal are not allowded to go out for security reason they should come back home before 8:00 pm in summer season and before 7:00 Pm in winter, or she should take his brother or parents with her. Boys dont have such restriction when they come late in there house parents never ask question. I believe every one of family should be present on dinning table at the time of dinner... Parents are more possesive for gal child compare to boy child. If there is one sister between many brother then she is protect and most loved child in family just like me & same in the case of boy also if they are alone between many sister they are loved and very protected by whole family.... but in urban area now a days people only have one or two child and they both are given same right....

But what sunilkumar said is also true..:)

[India1989]

Well they have this restrictions cause in cities crime against women are increasing. Rape cases are increasing. So that's the main reason they are asked to come home early. Unless and until the girl knows karate and can fight men with weapons it is dangerous for her to go out after 8pm.

[sunilkumar]

Yea now male are more frustrated and dressing of women also excite them .... i dont want to say that what women are wearing is worng.. but they should understand the mentality of cheap male of their cities, police cannot be every where .. recently in banglore one gal was raped and killed by driver of jeep. she was working in call center of HP <-- Leading Company.... the driver of her van took her in remote place and raped her killed her.... In this circumstance there is no fault of gal nor of police b'coz gal have to trust driver of his van who daily drop her to his house and take her to the office where she was working, so from this we all can understand the character of males are fallen, they are more frustrated in terms of sex..... karate and knowing other marshal art is good for women. But the most important things is presence of mind to react on particular situation..... so gals who know mashal art should regularly practise this art & those who dont know they should also try to learn it.

[India1989]

yup its girl's responsibility to to know that whether the guy is faithful. You can just trust anyone.

One can trust me though.

[sunilkumar]

For gal i will say ...Now a days dont trust any male except your real brother father and husband...

[hina]

yeah right..for guys don't trust any girls expect ur mom n ur sis...

[India1989]

man you gals can trust me man. i keep telling you this.