Help Needed-Very Tensed Plz help

[cheer]

Hi,

I'm tensed for last couple of months & don't know what to do. Reason for my tension is, Right now we're in Canada, been here for couple of years, This was my hubby decision to come to Canada & settle down here. But now I don't know for last couple of months (around 9 mths), he is become more religious, spend most of his time in meditation, reading religious books etc, we're satsangi's & now he wants to go back to India & spend his rest of the life in Bhakti(devotion), meditation & Seeva ( his Service).

But I don't want to go to India back, he just wants to earn basic there & spend rest of the time in devotion(satsang). I spoke to him but no use. Now what u should think I have to do, I have some options or let me know other options

1) I'm working lady, earn so so money for basic life. Do I have to stay here??? But the think is I really love my hubby so much & I can't think to live without him & another thing nobody is here, my family is in back India.

2) Go with him but then there life will be hell for me & the whole life I'll feel that I did wrong decision.

3) Or stay here sometime & afterwards if I feel to go back to India then will join him.

Thing is his background (I mean financially) is not very strong. I am honest & always supportive to him. & coming to Canada was his decision, although I was not want to come that time. But now he doesn't want to understand my feelings. We have no kids yet. Plz Help me. I'm very tensed, I need ur honest opinion.



Eagerly waiting for ur response

[India1989]

Well spending so much money and coming to Canada and then going back is not a good idea. but if you cna get basic salary and needs over there then you can go back considering that you cannot live without your hubby.

[GryffindorFan]

Only you can make this decision for yourself. It seems that your husband does not think much about his decisions and does not consult you. So you have to think for yourself and maybe then help your husband. Think about the quality of life in India versus in Canada. Pick the better place.

He can't force you to go back to India. You can try option # 3 stay here sometime & afterwards if you feel to go back to India to join him. Maybe you both need time to think about what you'd like to do.

In a marriage both husband and wife must have input in decisions that effect both of them. Only one can't make the decision without consulting with the other....only my opinion.

Good luck to you.