LOVE vs. ARRANGED

[ruby]

Hi guys,

I m always confused when people talking about love marriage or arrange marriage. People still debate on this issue which one is better.What should be the basis of the marriage love or social norms? I m still confused about this issues.

So i want to disscuss this matter with u. I really want ur"s points of view what u think about this topic?:rolleyes:

[pankajrathod]

I think arranged marriage is good as you get to know each other after marriage and everyday u discover new things about your partner.I am not totally against love marriage but in most love marriages there is almost nothing to explore of the partner as they know each other b4 marriage and after a while start losing interest in each other gradually over a period of time and thats when most of the problems start.And since arranged marriage is arranged by seniors the couple tends to compromise and understand litte things of life.
These are just my views and experience and not all love marriages or arranged marriages are sucess or failures,it finally depends on the couple.
One more thing I would say is it would be better if people decide to get married after checking thier zodiac compatibility as it is perfect in 99% cases of marriages.If anyone wants a free zodiac compatibility chart can contact me or if the mods and admin allow me I can post it here.

[SmileyRose]

Well I am a firm believer in love first and then marriage. I don't hold anything those who have a different view to my own though, however I don't personlly think I could marry someone I wasn't in love with.

Apparently there is a lot to be said about zodiac compatibility, so others have told me in the past....but even then I'd really have to be in love with the person first and not just marry him because of our zodiac compatibility.

Once you begin dating someone, the relationship can develop in two ways. You start to learn about the person and you either eventually start to fall in love with them or you can't stand to be with the person, irrelevant of their zodiac sign. If by chance their zodiac sign is compatible with your own and you happen to fall in love, then that's absolutely fine with me too but I'd have to marry someone because I am 'in love' with the person.

Come to think of it, I wonder which zodiac sign I'm compatible with? ;):)

[aruna]

I think love marriage is much better than arrange. It is little bit difficult to adjust with an unknown person before knowing him for your whole life. I m not against the arrange marriage but m not satisfied too.:confused:

[sunilkumar]

Aruna can you give me chance so that i can make u fall in love....

Ishq Dariya Hai Jiska Sahil Nahi Hota,
Har Dil Mohabbat Ke Kabil Nahi Hota,
Rota Wo Bhi Hai Jo Duba Ishq-e-sagar Me,
Aur Rota Wo Bhi Hai Jise Ishq Nahi Hota.

Arrange or love dosent make any sense....... koyi tho mujhsay shaadi karo... :D

Dont trust kundali ... its good for nothing all astrologer said India cricket team will play in semi-final of world cup ... Bejan daruval said india will be at number 2 ... i think he mean to say India will be at number 2 from behind ... :D

Aruna dont forget me..... I swear by the moon and star of sky .. I be there ...I swear ....

[egypt]

To Pankajrathod
Do you believe in zodiac charts?!!!!!!!!!!!!!
wake up man, we are in the third mellineum:)

To sunilkumar
translate please I can not understand anything:D
but I seem to love this language and enjoy listening songs in hindi

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well according to me... love marriages are better...!!

[sunilkumar]

EGYPT For Your Understanding

Ishq Dariya Hai Jiska Sahil Nahi Hota==>Love is an ocean which dont have any seashore
Har Dil Mohabbat Ke Kabil Nahi Hota==>Every Heart is not eligible for love
Rota Wo Bhi Hai Jo Duba Ishq-e-sagar Me==>They cry those who fall in love
Aur Rota Wo Bhi Hai Jise Ishq Nahi Hota==>And they also cry how dont fall in love...
Arrange or love dosent make any sense.......

koyi tho mujhsay shaadi karo...==>someone please marry me...

I hope i did it.... he he he :D

enjoy EGYPT ....;)

[egypt]

Thanks Sunilkumar, It seems very difficult:confused: but still love it:)
do you mind guide me to some web sites that can I learn it there
Thanks in advance:)

[monica]

Luv or arranged, why so much debate over the issue. As we all know, marriage stands on two pillars which are trust and understanding. Any imbalance can sour the marital relationships. So, its all luck what will happen after the marriage.

I have seen the worst consequences of luv as well as arranged marriages in my life. Luv is a emotional attachment and realites come only after the nupital ties are connected.

[preetibedi18]

i think both have there own importance..you cant say which is more important..both can be successful..both cannot..i have seen lot of love marriages which are not successful..now..but some are going well..and same for arrange marriages..its depends on you and your lifepartner they want to adjust or not..so in every kind of marriage adjustment is very important from both sides..

[Cyphor]

It's as good as asking someone "Is tea better than coffee ?"

What works for one will not work for another. Arranged marriage has its own pros and cons, so does the love marriage. I can not tell you what these pros and cons are because they differ from person to person and perspective to perspective.

So, you have to think what feels good to you in stead of asking for a generalized opinion on arranged and love marriage as it will, afterall, be just a generalized opinion. By the way, I would prefer an arranged marriage ;)

[gigglesy99]

I think love marriage is definately better. It should begin with dating, possibly moving in with the guy/girl and being with them for several years, that is when you should decide to get married. I find arranged marriages ridiculous, completely ridiculous. It's like life in the 18th century, seriously. 21st century! People have complete control over WHAT they want to do and WHO they want to do it with.
I don't know, that's just my opinion. I respect people that stand by arranged marriages, i just personally disagree.

[nameeta]

It is a personal choice and whatever works best for each individual is fine. If you feel you have found someone who you can spend your life with then one should go ahead with the same otherwise let your family members find it for you.Both have their pros and cons.

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[sunilkumar]

In Love marriage boy and girls are treated like dog by parents

In Arrange marriage they are well treated and respected.

In love marriage Parents of boys and girls are not needy party, only boy and girls are in need of each other.

Love marriage is good if both parents (i.e. of boys and girls parent) are sensible, other wise better to do arrange marriage.

Many love marriage didn’t take place due to custom and cultural difference as boy and girl belong to different culture. So in love marriage take one step at a time, don't think to much of future.

In arrange marriage, parents have all the burden ...:D

In love marriage girl and boy must have patience.

In love marriage girl and boy have to be very stubborn on their stand of marrying each other.

In love marriage don't fall by sentiment of parents other wise you will end up with broken relationship ....:D

Love marriage seems to be very good in movies but in reality(In India) its a taking lot of pain and tensions.

In love we see everything Pink but fact if we dont apply proper brain then it can take you to darkness.

One line for Love....It's a hit song of Film "Pyar tune kya kiya"

Kambakt Isqh hai jo, Sara Jahan hai vo, Kab aata hai... kab jaa-ta hai ... Per rahata hai jabtak vo Kambakt .... Janat deekhata hai.... ;)

[renu]

well m for both.in an arrange marriage boy n girl start their love life with the pace of time n develope an understanding with eachothers views n feelings.if they treat n handle their marriage properly n in right directions,their is no way any third person ever entering into their relationship.n the bond becums mnore n more stronger as days passes into years.

as for in love marriage,boy n girl both knows each other partially b4 marriage n can easily understand as to how to handle their spouse after marriage,once they decide to get married!n rest follows.

by the way every relation has got its own ups n downs ,shakes n shapes, how we take it, n give it, matters all!

[munnakv]

Arranged love marriage is the best of both worlds.

[cherrymahajan]

According to my views arranged marriages are more successful than love.In love marriages life become dull after marriage as both partners know each other before marriage and after marriage sometimes most of the pair start feeling bore as no excitement left after marriage.

[rock123]

Love marriage is too good rather then arrange marriage.Because you know very well about your partner .what he or she like .you are much comfort with your lover.:D
Arranged marriage are like a punishment which were given to us by our parents.They imposed your partner only.you do not know anything about your partner.:confused:

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[janifer20]

I just want to say that it is a way where two people goes together,
with believe each other.it is the road there many ways to go but one way is that where two loving person like to walk.love is heaven on the earth.and marriage is the soul of god.



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[alicia14]

Love and Arrange marriage both have their own meaning......its just a way in which two people live their life together with trust.......



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[sanjaysahu]

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[sheetal17]

According to me love cum arrange marriages are much better.